3 WAYS TO INCREASE YOUR SELF-WORTH

Ernest Amesi

3 WAYS TO INCREASE YOUR SELF-WORTH

It happens too often for too many of us.

You fail to get something you really want…because, at the crucial moment, something inside you doubts you’re able to pull it off.

Right?

You know that aching feeling…and the results of that.

This leads to a variety of situations like:

• Not getting that job you so want after being interviewed
• Not getting the promotion you so want
• Not getting the pay rise you richly deserve
• Not getting invited to an event or a party you really wanted to go to because of the people you really wanted to meet there
• Not being asked out on a date by someone you like
• Not having your calls, emails, texts and other forms of communication acknowledged by someone you really wanted to talk with
• Not being able to make that deal clinching presentation you were expected to
• Not being able to stand up for yourself when confronted with a person who dismisses, devalues or even devastates you

This further undermines your confidence and then further undermines your ability to deal successfully with these and other situations in the future.

Your self-worth begins to shrivel.

And…

You value yourself less and less.

And this undermines you across all parts of your work and non-work lives.

So, how can you value yourself more and reinforce your self-worth so you’re more persuasive and positive?

Here are 3 tips to help you achieve this:

1. Inspired Inventory: Draw up a list of with two columns. In one write down the varying qualities you have, no matter how small. This could be that you’re funny, good at general knowledge, that you’re great with children, that you’re good at crossword puzzles or even because you’ve got a fantastic bottom… or other brilliant bits! In the other write down the successes you have had. These could be from getting a great new job, saving someone’s life, getting great grades at school or having bungee jumped from a perilous height when others were too scared to do it or because you have been promoted or rewarded at work. Don’t limit it. Let your memory and your pen or your keyboard run riot.

2. Rewrite your Life Rule: Our Life Rule is a constantly running program in our subconscious mind that dictates how we think, feel, act and speak. For most of us, it’s too demanding and uncompromising. For instance, your Life Rule could well be telling you that you have to always look good, be funny, have a great job, earn lots of money and, if you’re not in a great relationship with someone who looks like they’re constantly airbrushed, then you’re jus not cutting it! This doesn’t allow for you to have off days, to fail and, in short, to be human. Therefore your subconscious mind is always making you feel that you can’t really value yourself. So, re-write your Life Rule to something that praises your good points and why you’re so lovable, likeable, courageous and able, but also allows for you to accept the mistakes you make and not be side-tracked or even sunk by what other people think of you. Then read this out every morning and feel and enjoy every part of it…to help re-program your subconscious mind.

3. Laugh more: Laughter is one of life’s greatest joys. It can make you feel amused, happy, loved, warm, positive, physically healthier, sexy, admired and desired. It is one of the most important aspects of any successful life. So try to laugh at least once a day either with someone funny and/or at something like a film, a comedy show or a scenario that you find amusing. Research has shown that:

a. Laughter may reduce your risk of cardiovascular disease
b. Laughing just 15 minutes a day can help you lose weight. Scientists have discovered that a daily dose of chuckling can burn up to five pounds of fat over a year. Ten to 15 minutes of laughter could increase energy expenditure by 10 to 40 calories per day.
c. A good laugh stimulates your organs, soothes tension and tummy aches, improves your immune system, relieves pain and increases personal satisfaction
d. The levels of two stress hormones, cortisol and epinephrine, which suppress the body’s immune system, will actually drop after a dose of laughter
e. Laughter releases anger, fear, guilt, anxiety and tension
f. Laughter encourages concentration on “right” attitudes rather than “wrong” attitudes
g. After watching an hour-long video of slapstick comedy that the “natural killer cells,” which seek out and destroy malignant cells, more actively attacked tumour cells in test tubes. And these effects lasted up to 12 hours.
h. Studies show a great sense of humour can add an additional 8 years to your lif